According to seasoned actress Judy Ann Santos, she also became a victim of “ghosting” in the past but she’s learned to just accept the situation and move on.
“Perhaps, it just didn’t become a big issue since there was still no social media way back then. What I did was just ignore it. If the concerned party didn’t want my affection, so be it. That’s how I handled the situation. Of course, it’s painful. The mere thought of investing so much in one person but sadly, he didn’t want it anymore. Who wouldn’t get hurt?” she asks.
“But I realized early on that things like that are not worth my time. I believe that each passing hour is essential to one person. So, why would you use it to something which is not positive and productive? If the other party got cold already, then it’s time to say goodbye,” she adds.
For the critically-acclaimed actress, as long as her conscience is clean, it’s what matters. She believes that as long as she knows that she didn’t fool someone and that her love is pure and genuine, she’s good with it.
“Regrets? I have none. It’s all part of loving. When you give true love to the other person only, he didn’t see it. What’s important is that I’m happy and is living peacefully because I don’t have any guilt feeling.”
Interestingly, the Starla lead star doesn’t believe in closure. She explains that if the other person doesn’t want a formal ending to a relationship, then there’s no point of going after the person just to have that “closure.”
“I won’t push myself to someone who doesn’t like my presence anymore. I won’t waste my precious time with somebody who doesn’t care about me in the first place. But of course, I can only speak for myself. I don’t know with the others. This is my experience in the past. I just learned to accept that if a person let go of you, then, it’s high time to move on. We don’t need closure anymore. It’s enough that you’ve hurt me,” she muses.
After going through a series of heartaches before, the popular actress reveals it didn’t make her viewpoint on love cynical. As days went by, she still chose to trust and be in a meaningful relationship.
“Well, not all guys are the same. It will take time before you’ll find the one with pure intentions but it will come eventually. It will happen in perfect timing—when your heart and mind are ready and you’re willing to give everything to the other person. You will feel it.”
“Ghosting can happen to anyone. It’s inevitable. We got hurt for a reason. You’ll realize that it made you a better and stronger person in the process,” ends Juday.
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In a recent post on her Facebook account, Aiko Melendez praised her director Gina Alajar who’s handling her in the latest GMA offering titled, Prima Donnas.
According to the award-winning actress, she has worked with Gina in several movies in the past and remembers the latter has even become a leading lady of her late dad Jimi Melendez. Aiko says it’s really a small world especially now that she’s directing her in a new soap.
“It’s truly an honor to be working with a great actress and now I’m witness of how good as a director she is. She is indeed an actor’s director,” she states.
The star also discloses how meticulous her director is in staging scenes.
“She’s very detailed yet, so soft-spoken. I love the fact how open I can be with her with my suggestions and how brilliant this lady is.”
Aiko is also not ashamed to admit that she is learning a lot from Direk Gina.
“Sometimes, when we’re doing blocking for some scenes, I am mesmerized with how you handle it. I realize that there’s a lot I can learn. I am humbled as I am being taught again new learning.”
In the end of her post, Aiko thanked her brilliant director.
“Thank you, Direk Gina, for guiding me!” she says.