Revisiting Matthew Hussey’s expert advice on finding the right love
At the height of the pandemic, I came across numerous videos of a confident-sounding guy on my Facebook and YouTube feeds. The charmer was giving nuggets of wisdom on self-improvement, love, and relationships.
After watching a couple of the short and easy-to-digest clips, I found myself availing access to one of his online retreats. The expert is Matthew Hussey, a British life coach, YouTube creator, and author.
At 36, Matthew has established his reputation as a leading authority in the field of relationships and personal development. He captured the hearts and minds of millions with his groundbreaking 2013 book, Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve. He has piqued the interest of Hollywood stars and has had guestings and appearances on numerous media platforms.
Let’s dive into some of the profound love lessons I gleaned from his teachings:
The power of mutual choice
Matthew stresses that for a relationship to thrive, it must be a mutual choice. Regardless of how deeply one may feel for another, true fulfillment can only be achieved when both parties actively choose each other. It’s not enough to simply love someone; they must reciprocate that love and actively choose to be with you for a genuine dream relationship to blossom.
Going beyond the spark
A crucial lesson from Matthew is the importance of finding someone with whom you share a deep connection, and who is also willing to invest in the relationship. While connections can be formed with many people, it’s those who reciprocate the connection and demonstrate a commitment to nurturing it that are truly worth holding out for.
Attention vs. Intention
In a world where attention can be mistaken for intention, Matthew’s message is clear: pay attention to actions, not just words. According to him, “Attention does not equal intention.” This is particularly pertinent for those in ambiguous relationships or uncertain about their standing in someone else’s life. True intention is demonstrated through consistent actions and genuine effort, not just fleeting attention.
Loving and living your present
Matthew advocates for embracing life and finding happiness in the present moment, even while searching for a romantic partner. By cultivating self-love and fulfillment independently, individuals are better equipped to attract healthy and fulfilling relationships into their lives.
Character and chemistry
In the quest for lasting love, Hussey emphasizes the importance of valuing character as much as chemistry. While attraction and chemistry are important, it’s the depth of character and shared values that sustain a relationship through the ups and downs of life.
The three keys to finding the right person
Matthew outlines three essential elements in finding the right partner: chemistry, connection, and investment. Chemistry entails a magnetic attraction and effortless rapport, while connection involves a deep understanding and shared vision for the future. Investment, the engine that drives the relationship forward, encompasses consistency, vulnerability, and shared goals.
Matthew’s insights can serve as a life compass to save others from potential heartbreak or wrong decisions based on mere emotions. Through his wisdom, thousands or millions of people around the world may enjoy lives filled with love, growth, and profound connection.
Get to know more about Matthew and his words of wisdom on Instagram @matthewhussey and watch out for his latest book titled Love Life.
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